It's early Sunday evening and I come across a Guardian article that talks about an identity, something called third culture kids (it's a very good read btw). Well basically for those of you who have never come across this term, it refers to any individual who is raised in a culture other than their parents' (or the culture of the country given on the individual's passport - where they are legally considered native) for a significant part of their early development years. A quick google search led me to this Buzzfeed article and this article by the Telegraph. By the end of reading these three articles, I actually felt a sense of... belonging? I mean, finally! Someone has articulated it perfectly how I feel most of the time.
For starters, it drives me insane whenever people ask me where I'm from... or what ethnicity I am... or how I got my accent. Cause how do I explain my story to them?
For the longest time, I thought to myself that maybe I'm just a bit too impatient because I would give people rather short answers or simple white lies that would not require further explanations. But no. I'm glad to know that it's something that a lot of other third culture kids experience. Every now and then, I get people who gets super puzzled when I say home is Hong Kong for me. Usually, questions like "but you're from Malaysia" or "does that mean you're from Hong Kong?" or worse, "how come you don't have a Chinese accent?" ensues.
It gets a little hard sometimes. Especially when you're homesick or when you're missing your best friends who's several thousand miles away. Distance is always the killer, isn't it? Maybe that's why I'm glued to my phone - whether I'm texting my family in Asia or my best friends in Australia and America... It all feels a little too much sometimes when all you want is for something to be constant for once. Oh I'm not complaining about all the opportunities or adventures that I've had, I'm simply describing some of the things third culture kids have to cope with. Not everything glimmers hmm.
I don't know why I decided to write this post but maybe it has something to do with missing my friends and feeling a tad bit lonely. Life gets super hectic and passes by too quickly. How on earth is it nearly December? I will be turning 22 soon! Everything's a little crazy. Oh and you guys have been so supportive in my last post. Even when I just came back from a blogging break... you guys are the best!
A third culture kid,